Open Relationships

Beliefs and norms

1. What messages did you grow up with about monogamy and relationships?

2. What do you think society assumes about monogamous vs. open relationships?

3. Have your views on love or commitment changed over time? If so, how?

Personal values and desires

4. What are your core needs in a romantic relationship – emotional, sexual, or otherwise?

5. Do you feel that monogamy or non-monogamy aligns more with your values right now? Why?

6. What do you associate with the idea of “freedom” in a relationship? What about “security”?

Openness and boundaries

7. How do you define trust in a relationship – does it change depending on the structure?

8. What kinds of agreements or boundaries feel important for you in any relationship?

9. What would make you feel safe exploring something outside the norm – or choosing to stay within it?

Reflection and curiosity

10. What scares you about open relationships? What intrigues you?

11. What do you think monogamous people might misunderstand about open relationships (and vice versa)?

12. If there were no social expectations at all, what kind of relationship would you design for yourself?