Patterns of Intimacy

Awareness of patterns

1. What patterns do you notice in how you give and receive intimacy?

2. Do you tend to move quickly into closeness, or do you need time to feel safe?

3. When do you feel most open to intimacy – and when do you tend to pull away?

Communication and emotional intimacy

4. How do you show someone you trust them emotionally?

5. Are there parts of you that you hesitate to share in close relationships?

6. What does it take for you to feel emotionally “seen”?

Physical and sexual intimacy

7. How do you experience physical touch – as comforting, overwhelming, neutral?

8. Is sexual intimacy something that deepens emotional closeness for you – or the other way around?

9. Have your experiences of sexual intimacy followed a particular pattern over time?

Repetition and relational dynamics

10. Are there relational “loops” you notice yourself repeating, even if you want something different?

11. What stories about love or closeness do you carry from your past?

12. How would you like your relationship to intimacy to evolve?

Healing and transformation

13. What helps you shift out of old intimacy patterns that no longer serve you?

14. Who or what has taught you the most about safe, nourishing intimacy?

15. If you could rewrite your internal “blueprint” for intimacy, what would it include?